1. First, sit down, take a note pad or open Word file and start listing every goal that you have or ever had that comes to your mind. You need to list goals from as far as you can remember - all the way from your childhood - as silly and simple as they may have been or appear to be now. You need to list them all because you are still allocating some energy to it somewhere in your memory that you may now need to release for a better use. Examples: I want to be a pilot, or I want to be a president, I want to have million dollars, I want to be famous, etc.
2. Now, reorganize your goals into 2 categories: Life Sustaining Goals and True Life Goals. Life Sustaining Goals are minimums that you need to provide for yourself and your family in order to physically survive, e.g. need to make $5,000 per month to pay all my food, utility, phone, insurance and other bills. Or I need a car to get to work. Or I need to fix the microwave, or I need to replace windows, etc. True Life Goals are those beyond Life Sustaining goals such as your dreams, something that you aspire to be, something that gives you satisfaction and happiness. For example, I want to be a well-known journalist, I want to fly to Mars one day, I want to travel the world one day, etc.
3. Now, look at each goal on your list and ask the following questions: Is there a real good reason why I should achieve It? Does it give me anything? Is it still a valid goal? Scratch off all goals where your answer is "No" and mentally cancel them in your mind. Every time you cancel, you are freeing up yourself from the unnecessary burden of spending your energy trying to achieve it whether consciously or unconsciously. Refresh your list with what is remaining.
4. Now, look at each goal again and ask yourself "Is this my goal or someone else's? Someone else may be the society, norms, your parents, your children - all those external entities telling you that you should achieve this. For example, you must earn a VP title to be respected, you must make $1 million to be part of some club, you must get into an ivy league school in order to get a good job, etc. - these are societal goals. If you find goals that apparently are not really yours, cancel them, stop your brain from using your energy subconsciously to always push you to achieve these someone else's goals. Refresh your list.
5. Then look at each goal again and ask "Is it a true or false goal". True goal is something you still want to achieve that makes you happy and false ones are those you thought were important, but lost their meaning. Cancel all false goals and refresh your list.
6. Then look at each goal again and ask "Is this an obvious or hidden goal". Perhaps, you are trying to achieve something in order to hide some weakness (by the way, the concept of weakness has no place in determining your place in life, it is irrelevant). Achieving something in order to hide a perceived weakness is a hidden goal. This may be someone else's goal we discussed above that is pressuring you to achieve it such as societal views and its obsession with comparisons. Identify all hidden goals and go through the same analysis as shown above and refresh your list again.
7. At this point, your final clean list of True Life Goals should be very small. You got rid of all the junk and can focus directly on your true goals. You will begin seeing that perhaps, some of them are sub-goals of your main goal. And you will begin seeing what kind minor goals you need to get out of the way in order to achieve Your True Goal.
Posted by Nilufar Salama of www.salamatrade.com on 7/23/2015. SALAMA INTERNATIONAL - Providing Value in Growing Your International Business.
July 23, 2015